Could It Get Any Worse?
July 13th, 2010 | 
Author: Just got a call – my aunt Charlotte died.
Our A/C failed inspection AGAIN. The guy came out and half-assed the insulation of the wiring outside. The inspector is reporting a violation on them w/the state of Texas and won’t ever let that company install in Kennedale again.
I am wondering how much will pile on me before the week’s up – and the worst part is, my mind doesn’t work well for writing when I’m upset like this. I stare at my screen 
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Wow, when it rains, it pours! Take a deep breath, try to get through the things you are dealing with one at a time, and do what’s best for you and your family. Don’t worry about us. Most will be sympathetic and patient. The rest aren’t worth worrying about anyway.
Tiffany:
I am very sorry to hear about your Aunt Charlotte’s death. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I am also very sorry to hear about your A/C not passing inspection. Does this mean you don’t have A/C? Try and keep your chin up. You are always such a positive person. And yes, it can get worse. I know from my personal life and you know what I mean .The sun will come up tomorrow and a new day will be dawned. Stay strong. It will get better.
No we have A/C Sam – it was a minor thing – he half assed the wrapping of our outdoor wiring with insulation, so he failed it – but my husband fixed it himself on the spot so he passed it. I was just annoyed that they did that. SO many issues with this company. Horrible.
My Aunt had lung cancer (non-smoker). but I wasn’t told she was near death or I would have liked to call her and say goodbye. I’m just beaten this week. I cry Uncle so whoever is pouring it on can stop now.
I’m sorry for loss Tiff. My prayers are with you and your family. I wouldn’t be in the right mood to work either. Consider taking a couple of days off — I’m sure your clients will understand. Hope you can get this behind you soon.
My gosh. I’m sorry to hear about your aunt. Stay strong. You and your family shall be in my prayers.
Talked to my dad. He’s bawling
Hard to hear an 86 year old man cry like that.
My A/C company is trying to make it right – we had told them initially we were going to save up more money to have our attic re-insulated (hadn’t been done in 40 years) and they’re doing it FREE – $1,500 worth. Yes, that does make up for the aggravation.
So drained. And dread emailing my clients to tell them the truth, which sounds worse than “my dog ate my homework.” But it’s the truth.
My prayers are with you Tiffany.
Tiff,
Oh, boy. Don’t give in to the A/C jerks. They’ll just do another bad job or fall through the ceiling. Cut them off now.
Find someone you trust for the insulation and tell the A/C jerks that they can pay for the other company to install it. See how they shuffle on that.
Kater
Tiffany,
I am so sorry to hear about your aunt’s death. I lost my uncle suddenly last year.
It always seems to hit in groups, but don’t let it get you into a negative place for long. I did that for months this year when I felt like everything was hitting me. I lost my uncle, lost my job and struggled with finances for months. The more I focused on it, the more negative crap I got. I finally had to take a week off, de-stress, rest and get my head on straight. Being a writer too, I know what you mean about staring at the screen. But, people have real issues (even us writers!) and clients have to understand that some things just cannot be helped.
Praying for your family and your Dad as he deals with this loss.
Charity
Kater, that’s exactly what they offered – and we’re doing – they’re paying another company to do it. They outsource anyway for attic insulation.
Charity, sorry about your uncle. It is hitting in groups. I have a wonderful support system, though –
1.) My Mom (my best friend) is always there for me.
2.) My husband is being sweet and concerned
3.) My kids hug me and try making Mommy feel better
4.) My friends let me know I’m in their thoughts.
5.) My online friends and followers and customers have reached out in droves – one person even offered to do my ghostwriting for me free of charge. How sweet is that? I said no, thank you, but the gesture was so supportive.
I emailed my clients in one bulk email (there are 5 clients – 2 are late, 3 more WILL be soon), and told them all what’s happening, and made a promise to complete all 5 projects by July 26th (that’s doing 10 pages a day) – very doable for me. Not sure how it’ll go over.
I’m just a wreck lately with everything piling on me – there are tons of little things I haven’t even mentioned. But you know how that is – just like being stung by one ant wouldn’t be so bad, getting stung by 100 of them kills. That’s how I feel.
Anyway, I’ll get through it – I just don’t like when everything happens at once and fear of my child being hurt (and then him hurting emotionally from it) and the death of a loved one is something that sends me over the functioning edge.
tiff
Tiffany, I am very sorry for your loss.
I wonder if you recognize how, even through all this stuff, you are providing an example and leadership. Many of us struggle with “staring at the screen” for way less than what you are dealing with. So, by sharing how you are handling it, even though you can’t stand all the junk that’s going on in your life, you are being that transparent, authentic teacher that I truly appreciate.
Thank you for being you!
Your friend, John.
Wow! Sorry to hear about everything that’s been going on. Hope you take the time needed to get through all this!
Oh Tiff. So sorry to hear about your recent troubles. I have been out of town and just got back to civilization to hear about what has been going on with you. I am thinking of you and hope that life settles down again soon. Take care of yourself as best as you can.
Hi Tiffany,
I’m so sorry for your loss, and all the other misfortune you’ve been having.
I found your blog a couple of weeks ago, and have been reading ever since. I live in Texas as well, and I know the last thing you want is air conditioner problems, in Texas, in the middle of summer. Best wishes to you.
Sorry Tiff! Hang in there, things will be better soon.
Tiffany,
So sorry about your aunt. I lost my aunt a couple of years ago and it’s hard.
Right now you are overwhelmed with everything happening, but hang in there. Work can wait.
Get other people to help with some of the things going on like the AC.
Things will get better.
Vicki
Tiff. So sorry to hear about your aunt. I lost my aunt a couple of years ago and it was heartbreaking.
I know it may seem dreary right now but things will get better. Be strong and take time off to give your mind, body and soul some time to heal. My thoughts are with you.
Tiff,
Yes, when it rains it pours.
Sometimes when we are at our lowest and can not see through the fog, we feel that our whole world is crashing around us. Unfortunately, the human brain works in a way to keep us only thinking about the here and now so we keep churning the same bad information over and over again in our mind.
When I was in a dark period a couple of years back, I wish I had been able to see past the darkness. At times, I could see myself beyond the situation but it is very hard to do. You have to think about what your situation and what your life was like before all of this hit at once and then imagine what it is going to be like when it all settles down again…and it will. We just don’t think it will because we are in the depths of it right now.
Just take it one day at a time. I do not know if you are religous or not, but every time something happens to me and I put it in His hands, the fog lifts, the clouds go away and I feel a peace come over me knowing that there is nothing I can do but that He can and does take care of it.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Dianne
Sorry for your loss and everything else that is happening. I have said prayers for you at this moment. I hope your clients understand that “life happens” and some things cannot be avoided.
Tiffany,
Wow, I am so sorry for all that you are going through! Thank God your son is OK. I am very sorry about your aunt. She is in a much better place now free from pain. I hope you take the time that you need to regroup. Take care.
Lisa