Hi everyone! I want to let you know about something. Very few of you do this, but it has to be said out loud – because those of us getting these emails behind the scenes are talking about you and I’d want to know if I was doing something inappropriate.
Some of you email me for advice. You tell me your personal story – all 100% perfectly acceptable and welcomed. I’m always wiling to help with whatever insight I have to offer.
But a few of you will go one step further and email me asking for money. Like for diapers. Or a bill.
This isn’t appropriate at all.
Just because I’m having success does not mean I’m here to be a bank for loans (or gifts – some of you don’t even say you’ll pay us back, you just ask for the cash).
What happens when these people do this is they not only email ME, but they simultaneously email several other marketers – and then we all talk among ourselves like this, “Hey did so-and-so email you asking for money for ____?”
These aren’t even people we know well. They ask us for marketing advice, and when we respond, they hit us up for money.
I don’t care how desperate things are – I’m not here for handouts. I have my own family to feed and clothe and bills to pay. I have tuition to still finish paying off, so no, my funds aren’t going to support another family. And even if I had leftover money it wouldn’t go to handouts like that – Angel Fund is one thing (and I weed people out there all the time).
Diaper money isn’t going to happen. Even if I have all my needs met that I could think of, and had leftover money, I would put it into savings and use a portion for charities I like to support, like military family charities. I figure someone’s out there putting their life on the line for me, so I can give back to them without hesitation (and I DO – even thought I don’t have all my families’ every need met yet).
It verges on angering me when someone does this. Because I know other marketers who then have real horrible feelings of guilt all day because they couldn’t or wouldn’t loan or give someone the money they needed. This isn’t fair. I don’t feel that way – I get annoyed with the person asking. But many kind-hearted souls DO find it ruins their day from guilt and worry.
If you truly can’t feed or buy diapers for your family, then go get on welfare or get a real world job instead of pursing marketing. Or go to real life family and friends for help. Do not email a marketer you barely know asking for money.
Period. It’s tacky.