Are you worthy? Of what? Of anything. Are you worthy? If you had asked me if I didn’t feel worthy of ANYthing in my teens, 20s or even early 30s, I would have scoffed and said “Of course not!” But I look back now and wow – I sure did feel unworthy.
I remember not dating anyone other than my son’s dad who wasn’t good to me because “I’m a single Mom – who’s going to want to date a girl with a kid?”
I remember not having the courage to ask for a higher position in a company because I had not yet earned a degree, even though my qualifications and skills superseded my boss.
I remember many examples now of feeling unworthy – it’s what held me back for 6 years from being an Internet marketer. I wasn’t worthy of being a leader because I hadn’t paid my dues, I hadn’t yet earned 6 figures, I hadn’t had a mind blowing launch day for Christ’s sake!
Who was I to be calling myself a marketer?
I’ll tell you who I am – I’m Tiffany Freaking Dow, that’s who! And I finally learned to let go of who I was SUPPOSED to be in order to be who I was. This phrase is one I want to hug. It’s from a fanTASTIC TED talk. Have you heard of those? Some amazing stuff in them. I forget how I found this one but I’m going to embed it here and then write more after this…
So many of those ideas spoke to me while watching that. To have connection, you have to have authenticity! I live and breathe that. It’s why, when some of you frown on my cursing or email me to say you’re disappointed that I went Honey Badger, I have to say, “Oh well!”
I can’t help it. I have to be ME.
Another phrase that spoke to me is having to have the willingness to do something that has no guarantees! I do that 24/7! I’m doing it now with my home and garden site. I have no idea if it’ll convert well or not – but I’m spending time and money going for it! Because to NOT go for it means to NOT possibly have success.
She says on that video to lean into your discomfort. I like that. Don’t back away from it – confront it. It really is like a rollercoaster ride to me. Sometimes you go through a day as a marketer feeling like your stomach is going to fly right out of your pie hole! Other times you’re smiling and hands raised up in the air squealing because something just happened that you didn’t expect – and it was thrilling!
She says you have to have the courage to be imperfect. I do! I flat out tell you when I screw up. I’ll kick my own ass. I’ll say “I don’t know!” Who cares if you’re perfect?
Vulnerability isn’t just beautiful – it’s a necessity in this industry. Every guru I ever worked for expressed his or her vulnerability to me over the phone and in emails. Every human on this planet is vulnerable about something and if they weren’t, then they’d be robots.
This is kind of in line with that wonderful phrase, “Do it afraid – courage will come later.”
It’s not just about having the courage to act though – it’s about embracing it. LOVE this journey that you’re on – the lows AND the highs – because at east you’re on it! Not everyone has the balls to do what you’re doing.
You’re amazing for that.
So let’s raise a toast to you – letting go of who you think you should be so that as of today, you can be who you are.