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Hi everyone. I had all sorts of thoughts in my head this morning…after a few different incidents where people emailed me repeatedly trying to strong-arm me or kiss my butt to get me to promote their “shortcut” software or services.

Even after you say no, they keep after you – and I HATE pushy people like that. I really do. It flooded in within the past 24 hours. Some were PMs on Facebook and some were emails. One was a DM on Twitter. Did I put out a bat signal that I needed some spammy JV partners or something?

The thing that sticks out with me with these people is they obviously don’t know me – or they’d know NOT to promote “fast shortcuts” as a primary perk. One even told me how I could rip off my PLR customers with his spinning software and you’d be none the wiser.  Sorry, I won’t be sharing that tidbit.

Yawn.

If I were not a patient woman, I would do anything to make money fast. I’ve said no to so many big “opportunities” – promotion swaps, list swaps, free trips to Singapore and London for seminars I was asked to speak at.

No thanks.

I think so many people lack patience in every part of their lives. I see parents grabbing their kids by the arm in the store and being impatient instead of kindly talking to that little person who loves them so much. It breaks my heart.

I see drivers swerving in and out of traffic, almost causing wrecks and ruining someone’s life. That was almost me this morning, too. A slightly different version. In four lane traffic, I was in the 2nd to the left lane. The highway was wide open, drivers going between 65-70 mph.

A car to the right of me swerves in front of me into my lane. I hate being on people’s bumpers, so I started to move my car into the lane he’d been in, to the right. But he sped up, so I stayed put.

If I’d been impatient or annoyed that he got right in front of me, then that impatience would have cost me and my kids our lives. If I’d just had to move to the right and pass him up, we would have slammed into a dump truck that was at a full stop in the middle of the highway. His drive shaft and tires had locked and he couldn’t move off to the shoulder.

Right after I passed, shivers up and down my body, another car did slam into the truck, killing a baby 3 year old girl and critically injuring her Mom.  I cried all morning. The truck driver is devastated, too.  Who knows – someone might have swerved to miss the truck and this Mom didn’t have time to move over. I saw the car – I knew by looking at it that the driver couldn’t have survived.

I started thinking about how many times a little bit of patience has changed my life for the better. I’m so grateful that I’ve kept a level head in my life – in driving (I let people in, I never act reckless), with my kids (I have such a close bond with them), and in my business (I feel proud of my accomplishment and slow growth).

Be patient with yourself, too, please. Whether it’s about dieting or learning something new. Be kind to yourself. Nothing’s going to be better if you beat yourself up or rush something.

I saw a lady being very impatient in the grocery store yesterday. She got angry with the young cashier and picked up her food divider and slammed it into the gum rack, muttering about how he’d done something she didn’t like. The man in front of me turned to look at me and I said loudly, “MAN I hate bitchy people!” (hoping she’d hear it and maybe contemplate it later). He smiled and nodded. Turns out he was her husband.

I just hate seeing impatient people take out their bad moods and reckless behavior on others. That’s what these spammers and scumbags do. They’re impatient for fast money, so you become the victim.

Sigh.

My heart is heavy for that family today…

Tiff

 

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42 Responses to “Patience Protects Us”

  • Samuel says:

    glad you survived. I like your blog very much but I usually just read but never comment. I just felt that I have to write something this time for some reason :)

    I like patient people too. I am a very patient person myself and I have learned over the years how not to let negative emotions rule my life. I value personal mastery higher than my money making ability.

  • Jim says:

    Now that Penguin has been unleashed and most Internet marketers are seeing incomes drop by 50% or more, I assume a lot of them are desperate. Therefore they try to get one last influx of money by getting people like you to push their “systems” before even the newbie wannabe marketers cash in. Could be.

    Even though you don’t rely that much on Google, your income will drop too because the people who buy from you rely on Google. If they aren’t making money, there won’t be many people to buy your products no matter how good they are. Penguin affects every one.

    I am down a solid 70% and I have no delusions about recovering. Good thing I made several bucket loads of money in the last 5 years before all this happened.

    • Tiffany says:

      Sorry traffic’s down for you Jim. What do you think caused it for you? Good thing you stocked up! I’m not worried about my sales. I’m pretty diversified in niches and types of sites so my income’s continued growing. So have expenses LOL! That part sucks :)

  • Jim says:

    I meant “catch on” rather than “cash in” up there in the first paragraph. oops.

  • Patience is so important… there are so many shortcuts, and not just in IM, that are just not worth it. Take your time and do things right. It will save you time in the long run!

    Jim mentioned the new Google update… A lot of people are trying to find the new “quick and easy” way to rank, but I am happy to say my sites are stronger than ever! I am sure it is because I didn’t focus on building backlinks, I focused on building traffic by guest blogging, posting on forums, making Squidoo lenses… anything that can drive traffic without Google. Now my sites are showing up even higher on Google! My patience and desire to provide value are paying off.

  • Jean says:

    Thanks Tiff , for sharing one more day of your life. It looks like some body has posted myself. Slow growth some time it hurts but it i believe that is fine.

    It is equally important to know at the end of day how you did it.

    Patience – I am not good at handling patience, Yes i have improved over years but yes your prospective will add to it. Once again Thanks for sharing.

  • Edie Dykeman says:

    It’s becoming more of an unjust and mean-spirited world. I’m glad you’re family is safe and my heart and prayers go out to the family of the little girl and her mom. What a horrible experience.

  • christiena says:

    Hear, hear. I drive like grandma moses and the kids always complain but I think they’re secretly glad that I personally think they’re worth the extra few seconds to get there safely.Have we really got that self-involved that we’ve forgotten what it’s like to be…little vulnerable people?
    Cyber hug Tiff – that’s a tough one. X

  • Cindi says:

    Hi Tiffany,

    I so agree with you about the patience thing. It seems as though people are just in too damned big a hurry these days. They just don’t realise the lives they can effect through one moment of impatience.

    When I am waiting in a slow line at the grocery store, I consider that there may just be a reason for it. My mind goes back to September 11, 2001, and I think of all those lucky people that were delayed for one reason or another on that day. Maybe they overslept. Perhaps their child was ill, and they had to stay home that day. I remember hearing about a guy that had to get his eyeglasses fixed before he could go to work at the towers. That is what goes through my mind when I’m stuck in traffic or in a long line somewhere.

    I am always kind to cashiers and such. I used to work retail. I know how rude and impatient people can be. Even if the cashier is down in the dumps, I smile and try my best to brighten their day! You just never know, that may be all they needed that day. A smile and a few kind words can work wonders, it did for me.

    I am so glad you stick to your ethics guns, Tiffany. That is one of the many reasons I follow you.

    I’m glad you are OK after that traffic incident. Whew (wiping brow). It’s scary out there!

    Take care!

    Cindi

    • Katie B says:

      I love to hear that other people are trying to show compassion and be positive when other people aren’t. Sometimes your attitude is what helps lift theirs.

  • Shan says:

    Thanks for sharing this, Tiff. That family is in my prayers.

    Shan

  • Kristen says:

    Just weeping right now for that family. Prayers for them, and an added dose of patience for me today.

    I was impatient with my daughter last night because she delayed on doing some homework. I’m going to take a chill pill today and slow way down.

    Thanks for the reminder Tiffany.

  • Erik Heyl says:

    My thinking with software is that its all in how you use it. Take Scrapebox. Sure, you COULD use it to spam the heck out of things, but that gets you nowhere. Or, you COULD use it to find sites that are highly related to your product service. Take those sites and add them to Magic Submitter (for instance). Couple that with good quality content written/created by you and dripped out and you’ll be good.

    Stuff like this takes time, most people don’t want to hear that thought. Whenever I’m about to write or do a screencast, I always try to come at it from the point of “if I were someone searching, what would I want to see?” Put yourself in the other fella’s shoes, to quote Sharon, Lois and Bram!

  • Bridget says:

    Oh my Tiffany, I can’t believe that accident! That would have definitely shaken me up if I were you. I’m shaken up just reading about it!

  • John Bradley says:

    “free trips to Singapore and London for seminars I was asked to speak at.”

    Nothing wrong with spreading your knowledge to other countries! You may want to re-consider this one …

  • Alice Coaxum says:

    Hi Tiffany,

    You are so right. Patience is important in all things. Being hasty can cause you to make bad mistakes. That is terrible about the traffic accident.

    I see people driving who will cut you off without a second thought or speed up just to end up stuck at the same red light a few seconds earlier. It isn’t worth it.

    Our last minivan was damaged when a woman decided she didn’t have time to park and go in the pizza store. She just opened her car door after she turned a little, in the middle of the street, banging into our car with her door while my husband was driving and it dented the passenger door. It was so loud I initially thought she had ran right into us. Thank God she hadn’t gotten out the car yet, it could have been her that got hit.

    And of course, it wasn’t her car and her mother dropped her insurance so their insurance company didn’t even pay us for the damages. A whole stupid mess over someone being too impatient to just park their car and get out like a normal person.

    • Katie B says:

      So you’ve noticed the people who cut you off and get stuck at a red light anyway. I see this all the time in Atlanta and I was starting to wonder if it was just me noticing that. Glad to know other people feel the same way. I just can’t figure out what they are getting out of this behavior. It seems fruitless to me.

  • Jennifer says:

    Oh, Tiff. Glad you are OK. So sorry for that poor family. Once again you have perfect timing. Dealing w multiple things myself and trying to slow down. Thank you.

  • Agneta says:

    I was once saved from a terrible accident as well. Engine just died and I was standing by the roadside for 10 minutes. Unable to start it. It didn’t respond to anything. Then it started and 10 minutes down the road a terrible accident had taken 5 people’s life. They said it happened 10 minutes prior to my arrival. Someone was watching over me that day for sure.

    I use to say that I’m slow. It has changed to I’m patient. :)

    What a tragedy for that family. I’m in tears. Awful. Such a stupid waste. We all have to slow down.

    Take care

    • Tiffany says:

      Well the tragedy gets worse. Today they say the little toddler was in the front seat (not supposed to be here!!) and they don’t even know if she was restrained at all. Freaking parents who don’t take every precaution available to protect their babies infuriate me. If this is true I hope the mom lives and has to live with herself.

      • Katie B says:

        Wow, Tiff, I’m not even a parent but I love good parents. Bad parenting drives me nuts. Thanks for being a good parent, Tiff! By the way, sorry I’m commenting so much on this post but this patience article and the comments really spoke to me today. I recently complained about always having to wait for things in my life but now I have a whole new appreciation for the wisdom and protection of being patient. Thank you for this post.

  • Sam says:

    Hi Tiffany:
    Fantastic post as usual. I love the part about being patient with our children. People get caught up in the every day grind and many times don’t take time to tell their kids how much they love them. Kids are our most prcious possession. Don’t ever forget it. Take Care,

  • Jenny Dunham says:

    So glad you weren’t involved in that accident but, like you, it breaks my heart to think of the family who was. It’s so easy to forget that every time we get out on the road we’re putting our lives at risk.

    Patience is definitely a virtue. I think all our electronic gadgets, etc. have caused us to lose patience more easily. We’re used to instant everything. Personally, sometimes I wish I could take a step back to when things were less hectic in general.

  • I know what you mean, Tiff. I see impatient people all the time. I had a guy yesterday that was going to pass me in construction that told us to stay in one lane. All I did was shake my head at his stupidity.

    I feel for the family of the crash victims. Some people just don’t think when they do. But, I am very glad you and yours are ok.

  • Jim Francis says:

    Hey Tiff,
    I agree with the patience. I am a real estate investor and have been for over 30 yrs. Times got tough, put the money away waiting for the market to come back. For over three years just stayed on the farm. Doing organic everything and doing some IM.

    On Saturday make a purchase on Warrior. Big Scam… went after the guy got my money back. Real bummer, wanted to choke the shit out of him for wasting my time. But it would require me leaving the farm :)

    My wife thinks if I get any more patient… she is just going to cover me with dirt.

    I wouldn’t use Unique Article Wizard recommended by some mutual acquaintances of ours in their course.

    Today got the real break I have been striving for. The light bulb went off… Ahha moment… Sky is the limit now.

    If you just keep at it, never quit, never sell your soul for a buck good things will happen. Moreover, enjoy the journey and when you get where your going you can look in the mirror and still respect the person looking back.

  • Rach72 says:

    Tom Petty did sing “the waiting is the hardest part” for nothing!

    We can all look back and see how charging like a bull has cost us and waiting patiently has changed our lives for the better.

    Great post Tiff.

    Rach :)

  • Zoe says:

    As they say patience is a virtue. As a mother of 4 and grandmother of 5, patience is a blessing.

  • Bev Boorer says:

    Tiff, thank goodness you escaped that accident and even though the mother did the wrong thing she will be devastated and have to live with that for the rest of her life. That’s a hard lesson to learn. I was involved in a serious accident six years ago – due to the impatience of the other driver who was speeding – one person in the other car was killed and I had 13 bones broken. I still suffer pain due to the back injury.
    Impatience is a terrible thing….

    • Tiffany says:

      True. I get so angry – my great aunt takes her grandkids riding in her car up front, no seatbelt. I get livid! They don’t listen. If you loved that baby SO very much, why wouldn’t you protect it? It drives me insane. Sigh.

    • Tiffany says:

      And so glad you survived, Bev! How scary.

  • Mel says:

    Glad to hear you and yours are safe. Prayers for the other family.
    My mom got her license later in life than most people. She always had a saying that she said when some jerk would cut her off or speed up to pass her; ” Go ahead, Hell’s only half full!”

    Mel

  • Jim Francis says:

    Hey Tiff I was working last night and something just popped into my head, so I have to ask: When did God give Honey Badgers patience? LOL

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