Hi everyone! Today I want to talk to you about two things that inspired me. Well, they inspired me long ago and I LIVE them and they’re what separates me from the quitters and failures, so I thought I’d share in case it helps you, too.
Embracing Self-Directed Learning
The first thing was what I heard today when I attended the “Going into high school” meeting at my son’s school. My kids attend THE top college preparatory school in our metroplex – my alma mater.
I sent them there because I know I was an A, B, C (okay and the occasional D during boy crazy times) student when I was in high school. But I got to college and I was on the Dean’s List – straight As – effortlessly. It was incredibly easy for me. So I wanted my kids to have the same head start in life. That’s why I work so hard to send them there.
Today’s meeting was about how they’re considering switching up the regular 6-class, 50 minute increment schedule because they’re evolving with the future – and learning today may not mean you need to physically be in front of your teacher daily, or for a rigid 50 minutes each class period.
They’re moving toward embracing more of a self-directed learning schedule. The head of the upper school talked about how he achieved his goals because he’s the type of person who sees an obstacle and works his mind to figure out how to overcome it. He enjoys the process.
He wants the kids to be that way, too. Think about it – all great innovators and leaders have had this same “self-directed” mindset. We call them “go getters” but really, the only difference between them and the other types of people are that they aren’t waiting for someone else to figure things out for them – to hold their hand.
With Internet Marketing, you’re never EVER going to succeed if you’re reliant on others for success. That doesn’t include delegating or outsourcing. It means never expecting someone else to hand you every bit of information on a silver platter.
Every product out there is lacking. Mine too! In some way, I’m sure there are questions or steps that someone wanted that aren’t in there. I made it as comprehensive as possible, but it’s not perfect.
Every leader out there lacks knowledge in some way. Me too! There are tons of things I don’t know. So if you relied on me to teach you and you needed an answer to something and I didn’t know, what would you do? Would you dig until you found the answer?
Most people don’t, actually. But I’ll bet most of you said, “Yes.” Most people keep asking others. They’ll email me, then PotPieGirl, then someone else, etc. When what they really needed to do was search online for the answer OR … something I did even in the video tutorial I made today about drop down page menus – PLAY around with a concept until you DO “get it.”
This is SO so very important. The head of the upper school was talking about the power of failure, yet people I talk to in this niche are embarrassed to make even the tiniest mistake.
They feel scared, intimidated – yet this is a SOLO career. The speaker said, “If you win, all you do is celebrate. But if you fail, you become better and better and push yourself harder and become stronger.”
Every single successful person I’ve ever read about, watched on TV or talked to has a zillion (and 1) failures under his or her belt. How many are you willing to brag about? Or, are you only willing to brag – once you become a success?
You should be proud of your own self-directed journey right now. The power you have in unearthing new ideas and new abilities in yourself is incredible and something you should be tooting your own horn about.
Do You Have an Exit Strategy?
Do you have a mindset of, “Well if it doesn’t work out, I can always…?”
If so, you’re not committed to this career. Mark Cuban said, “Don’t start a company unless it’s an obsession and something you love. If you have an exit strategy, it’s not an obsession.”
If ALL this is is a way to pay some bills, then that is not a career you’re passionate about. You really have to want this. You have to enjoy research and sharing and leadership and learning and yes, failing. You have to be able to laugh when you flub something and have to redo it or figure out what works.
Having an exit strategy – a “what if” in your head is a huge obstacle that prevents you from pushing as hard as you have to in order to make this work. It’s a way to validate your excuses.
So today, I want you to throw away your what ifs…your exit plans. If this doesn’t work, you will be homeless, starving and miserable. Even if it’s not true, pretend like it is. Whatever has to work to light a fire under your ass.
For me, it’s my kids not being allowed to go to their school. I would be devastated. I worry every day about their tuition. There are no “exit strategies” for me because it’s do or die time.
How do I push myself when I have the flu or my relationship is crumbling and I feel like crying? I think about tuition. HAS to get done. And I LOVE helping others. I crave it.
If I stopped making enough money to support us and I HAD to go get a job, I would. I’m not stupid. I have mouths to feed. But I would NOT quit this, either. I would continue working it in my spare time – and yes, during work hours on the sly (wrong, I know – sue me) – but I wouldn’t quit it.
Does this make sense? How giving yourself leeway is a way to NOT push through your reservations and put yourself out there 110%?
I hope so. Because those that get it will hopefully be able to squash those exit plans and the fact that this is IT for you might help you make some serious changes in how you’re pursuing your online business.