Hi everyone! Last night (wee morning hours) I sent out an email kind of a combo about my work and business models and partly my frustration with the type of people I can only describe as IM panhandlers.
They want free help and don’t want to work. But a few people have either emailed me or commented apologizing for contacting me lately about things.
I want to set the record straight:
1. If you have a specific question and either can’t find the answer online OR really would like to know my opinion on it, I have NO problem with you asking me.
Not broad stuff like “how do you make money online?” but stuff like, “Hey do you allow lending for your Kindle books, because I’m not sure which is best?”
What I dislike are people who say they buy courses, none of them work (LIE) and they just need someone to mentor them. No patience for that anymore. I’m busy – show me you’re working it and I’ll help where I can. But don’t tell me nothing works. It sure does – read ANY of my product reviews and I’ll prove it.
2. I LOVE getting to know you, getting to be friends with you, and being here for you. I don’t mind people emailing me to let me know anything – their dog died, they sure liked something I did, they want to show me what someone else is doing that sickens them, etc.
Stuff like that is being a friend. That’s one of the PERKS of this business. It’s not a PITA. It’s why I don’t feel isolated, why I protect you like a honey badger when I’m considering what to tell you about. You’re my friends. Friends chit chat.
I don’t let friends DRAIN me. Some of you have been with me awhile and know I’ve given you some tough love once in awhile. You’re still here. That shows strength and character to me. You are serious about success is what I’m thinking.
You have the wrong idea of a mentor.
I have to clear something else up that’s been a long time coming. Craig Desorcy is my mentor. He’s my friend. But let me explain how that all started. I had already made the announcement in WF that I was going to be a marketer.
I had already written my eBook about Squidoo and launched it. I was scared shitless and participating in WF, feeling like a stupid noob, worried people would make fun of me. Doing it anyway. Craig wasn’t guiding me through those rocky waters at this time.
It was once he saw I had potential and was WORKING IT that he offered some insight and help. He’s seen a million IM panhandlers suck his time dry – and he wasn’t going to waste anymore.
But even then, he guided me, but we weren’t close friends right away. I appreciated him, but I didn’t KNOW him. I asked questions and he did help. But I never emailed him broad “guide me” emails. I had specific questions, like, “How do I get the eBook sent to them automatically?”
He’d help. Some things I’d try on my own. I might screw them up then turn to him and he’d help me straighten it out. Over time, he just became a friend so dear to me – even if he didn’t do a thing for me the rest of my life – that I feel like he’s part of my family.
I remember once when he changed emails. It was in between the “acquaintance” mode and “friend” mode. I was feeling close to him – so appreciative. He’d gone about 5 days without answering emails and I assumed he just didn’t want to communicate with me anymore – maybe I bugged him. I cried over it! LOL!
Over time, even with my “mentor” – I started using my own insight. I started outsourcing tasks to others when I could afford it. Instead of begging Craig to install Jrox Jam, I paid extra money and had them do it. I don’t want to hog his time – I respect him too much and if I can save the money and do it, I’ll do it.
Point is – Craig never once said, “here’s your business model, Tiff.” He helped me with specific tasks. He also reinforced my ethics. But I never asked him “What do I do” as far as making money. I figured that out on my own – eBooks, affiliate marketing, ghostwriting, etc.
Now I’m even kicking his butt a bit. He’d a supreme mindset helper. I mean the man’s ethics and mind are something I’m in awe of, so him being in the self help niche is fate as far as I’m concerned. So I made sure he got Geoff’s Kindling course and I will nag him till he’s on there changing lives like he’s done for me.
My point is – don’t ask for a mentor. Find what you need to do, and befriend people who you admire. Don’t leech off them, but take what insight you can from them and work hard to find your own answers. It’s the #1 best way to learn.
And you’d better not stop emailing me niceties and even your worries. That’d be a big insult to me if you turned on me like that.