Hi everyone! Before you watch the video blog, just know I tried to mix it up with the setting and looking at it now, I’d rather sit on my couch. LOL! Airplanes flying over, shaky hands – not my cup ‘o tea. But that said, I’ve got work to do and I’m not redoing this sucker. Here’s the vlog with text below:
Okay so in today’s video blog I first say HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my sister Jeni, whom many of you know. Then I go into Time Warrior – my current favorite book. I read chapters 94 and 95 yesterday but the video I made was so flat due to it being the end of the day and me being so tired that I wanted to re-talk about it today instead and toss the other video.
Chapter 94 of Time Warrior is called Waking up feeling bad? How many of you do that? I know sometimes I do. Sometimes I don’t even know why – I just wake up with a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach like something’s lurking out there waiting to get me that day. Chandler says that a “true warrior takes up arms against depressed feelings.”
We have to fight BACK, not let it defeat us before we even step out of bed. He talks about how ”Fears sweep in like the monkeys in The Wizard of Oz. Monkeys aren’t supposed to fly,” he says, “but the story-telling mind can make even little monkeys be evil fliers. ”
So it’s like my mentor Craig Desorcy tells me – we all have our stories. Personally, I told myself the story that I couldn’t leave a bad situation because it’d be too scary – too hard on my kids, etc. Story! They’re much better now and I’m stronger than ever, even at my VERY lowest moments – the contrast between a low Tiff now and a high Tiff then is still enormous, with low Tiff being a million times more powerful than high Tiff was during those dark days.
I do the same with work. Storytelling about what people are willing to pay, how I have to be there for the masses of little guys who need everything free. You can help without sacrificing your business and worth.
In Chapter 95, Chandler titles it, “Stop all that thinking.” Love that. He says all that thinking we do is “a kind of sick form of self-hypnosis.” We tell ourselves something enough, it becomes our truth, right?
He says, “That’s, in fact, the only thing that can ever weigh me down. My own thinking.” How true. I always blamed outside factors for everything – personally and professionally. If someone else wouldn’t be a certain way (customer or personal), then I wouldn’t have to react or act the way I have to in order to deal with/handle it.
Hmm not true. People can stand on their head in front of me now for all I care. I am in control of how my thinking evolves. If someone’s an asshole, I can either get myself riled up thinking about it or let them be an asshole and have it be on them. Not my problem. It only becomes my problem when I believe I need to have a reaction.
Now here’s where it’s funny. Chandler says something I didn’t expect him to say. “Stop trying to replace negative throughts with positive thoughts.” LMAO! Really?
I swear I just knew he was going to go all “stare in the mirror and chant a positive mantra” on me and he didn’t! He says positive thinking is overrated. Well sometimes it is! He says doing is underrated.
Ah – back to what my mentor Craig says. Not to let fear and whatever other emotion is destroying your progress rule you – to roll up your sleeves and dig in, mistakes and all. Thoughts out, action in. I likey.
Okay on to the other stuff. Someone had asked me if I’d noticed comments were down on the blog. I don’t normally notice much like that on a regular basis – especially if I know why ahead of time.
I do notice when people go missing. Tamsin, Mama Red, Paul, Minna, etc. – I have noticed them gone. I go check people’s blogs. Sometimes they are going through something – they purge lists, check out of the online world, and take care of themselves.
Sometimes overall comments go down because of me, not the individuals.
I would worry if I was still churning out amazing thought-provoking blog posts like I was conscious to do during the John Chow blog review, but for the past couple of months, I know exactly why comments were less.
I was blah.
Simple as that. My posts were basically, “Hey this is Tiff. I got this task done. Not in the best place. Bye.” That’s not the kind of inspiring content that has people pouring their heart out and saying, “Wow this was great – I’m sharing this!”
But here’s the deal…I’m okay with that!
I am not a robot so I can’t be “on” 24/7/365. I am human and will go through down times when I’m no more inspiring than a bump on a log. I was proud of myself for still showing up, even if I was on the sidelines sickly so to speak.
I know people who go through down times and you see them go MIA from their blog for a month or more. I don’t like doing that. It makes people worry – especially when you’ve built a relationship with your audience as I’ve done.
Another thing – the bond I have with my audience makes them connect with me personally. MANY emails have poured in instead of public comments. So those yucky days when I was barely a shadow of myself, I’d get loving emails from men and women saying, “Chin up lady! I’ve been there. You’re going to get through this,” etc.
I guess that’s why I didn’t notice the actual on site comments were low – people just emailed me. They’d share their personal stories about divorce or tragedy and how they got through it. Not things everyone feels comfortable putting on a public site.
Now I feel like I went through a big low spot recently – where I got knocked down out of the blue and had to cry and feel helpless, etc. I got over it and came back stronger than before. It had caught me off guard.
But my traffic and sales didn’t seem to suffer. Oh! Speaking of which… why is my cpanel stat area showing an increase in traffic and keywords while Alexa shows a drop? Not sure I grasp all that. Cpanel shows my site traffic growing to over 4k visitors a day while Alexa shows a drop for 7 days, month, and 3 months. That doesn’t appear true based on what I’m seeing.
Very odd. How do they compile their info – anyone know?
Alrighty I’m off to work hard today! I woke up, threw open my curtains (I love saying that – feels so dramatic LOL), let the sun pour in. I put makeup on, curled my hair, had coffee, and now I’ll tidy my mostly straight house, get more work done, and I plan to go to the store to get things to cook and bake with my kids this week.
Feeling strong, baby. Strong. I won’t always be this way. But thank God I have you guys to pick my sorry ass up off the floor when I’ve fallen. That’s what friends do for one another, isn’t it?
Oh I also made a video of Honey the vicious chihuahua for Philip, Sam and Titan – her 3 biggest fans She’s trying to impress you with her mean high pitched girly growl.