Sunday Vlog January 20, 2013
January 20th, 2013
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Author: Hi everyone! I am trying my BEST not to sound like some Eeyore this year but man… can life lighten up a bit, please? Dylan totals his car day 1, I get the flu day 2, and now Dad’s in ICU. Today? We discover my Aunt (the one who’s been taking care of my Dad) is losing her memory rapidly. She called my sister panicked asking where Dad was (he’s been in ICU for days and Michelle had JUST spoken to her earlier in the day).
So my poor sister Michelle (I grew up calling her Sho as a child) is having to deal with this solo. This is my sister and I have to laugh at this picture. I remember even at THAT age what happened. I swear I do. She was cradling her doll, so I told her to hold my baby doll and she did – and when she did I started crying that she took it. LOL! She glared at me. She’s put up with me a ton over the years 
Here’s my vlog and Ill write more below:
Sunday January 20 2013 from Tiffany Dow
A few people have urged me to go right now to Florida but I’m waiting. When I go, the kids will be going with me. This particular ICU has very limited visitation hours and only one point of contact is allowed (my sister). I want to go as soon as dad’s moved into the rehab facility (nursing home) so me and my kids can spend more time with him.
I’m making him videos. He’s talkative and everything but doesn’t make sense in what he’s talking about sometimes. No more slurred words, just silly stuff. I told my sister to call on other family members there who can handle my Aunt. We lots of cousins who can step up to the plate for her.
Earlier today I got into it with my niece who, meaning well, posted a video of my dad in his little hospital gown, frail and babbling. She didn’t mean to, but I told her I felt he would be humiliated by it. She pretty much said, “Well I like it.” So then honey badger came out unfortunately. She then called me a name and I restated my case and she removed it, but she’s not happy about it.
Oh well. I have no patience for handling people the right way right now. No filters on me. Just raw, blunt Tiff. I’m exhausted from not much sleep. Last night I woke up at 3:50 AM and posted on FB and 2 mins before, my sister had posted that she was awake, too. So you know we both freaked ourselves out – because dad had said he wouldn’t make it through the night – so we found out he was fine and chatted on the phone for an hour laughing about memories and crying to each other.
As for me, I’m working. I posted a WSO with free PLR here in case you want to check it out. And I finished my Affiliate Marketing MEGA PLR report and mapped out all 52 articles that will go with it and picked out the freebies I want to put with it.
I’m so sleepy. I outsourced the toy blogs for now because I don’t want to get behind – and I figure her part can be writing about the facts and my own part will be to add personalization to it. I don’t want to get behind. The blog is picking up slow steam with keyword traffic.
I like something Alice Seba and Scott Stratten were Tweeting about today. Scott said something about being annoyed with some people’s Tweets and then realizing HE followed THEM. He talked about how we allow noise in. So true! It made me have a mini aha moment. He’s right! We allow people to make us feel insignificant, stupid, annoyed, whatever. We have the option to separate ourselves from it at any time.
I’m so sleepy. I think I’ll go take a bath and nod off for a bit.
Tiff 
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Hi Tiff,
So sorry that this year hasn’t started off that well for you. However, just like you mentioned, you have to focus on the blessings that you have in order to stay strong.
I love that photo of you and your sis. I have something similar. I was about 6 or 7 years old when my aunt came to stay and we were so excited but then it was time for bed and the face on me when they took that photo. I had such an upside down frown, my lips could’ve touched the ground. We always laugh when we look back at those old photos and memories.
Keep postive Tiff.
Here’s my first video – post 30 day challenge.
Take care
LOL yeah we laugh at this one too
Keep strong, Tiff! Be a honey badger if you have to!lol! My thoughts are with you and your family! Yoan xxxx
thanks Yoan! Tapping into my inner JR
Yoan
You have a nice site.
If I needed a ghostwriter (or when I do) I would feel very confident in hiring you. The testimonial part is great.
Mary Kathan
Hey Tiffany
I am still sending prayers you way.
You are a tough chick and I am inspired that you are able to produce good work even while under stress.
I did a vlog report today that is good news about family dogs that save little lost kids. Maybe it will make you smile.
http://www.awesomedog.com/dog-heros-report/
Aww can’t wait to see it!
Just got power back on an hour ago. Scurrying to get my vlog typed and uploaded. Going to have to pull a midnight oil, since power was off since 9 am…. 10 hours – no power. Isn’t technology lovely?
Yes!
Tiffany, I was surprised to see you still working so hard, with all the worries you’re going through. Maybe it’s helping you cope with the stress. You sound like a tough cookie, could be something you inherited from your dad. Makes me realize I could be working a little harder.
The story about your sister made me laugh, reminds me of my older brother when we were growing up,except he was the one who aggravated me, because I was so gullible.
Hope you get some rest.
Yes it helps keep my mind off it somewhat Steven.
Tiffany, I agree with you 100% regarding your niece’s video. How would she like a family member doing that to her when she ends up old, frail and babbling. As family members it is our duty to safeguard our loved one’s dignity when they cannot.
Anyway, I am keeping your dad in my prayers as well as you and your family. Hang tough, kiddo!
I know Antoinette. Thank you. I think she meant it heartfelt like here’s my sweet Papa, but once I pointed it out, she should have immediately taken it down, not making me battle about it.
SO totally with you on that one! When my mom was in the hospital fighting for her life I was primary caretaker. And I was in NO mood to sugar-coat things to family members who didn’t “behave” themselves.
I had step-family that said they wanted to come visit but I told them no because she needed every ounce of strength to get better. Truth is, I’d seen them in action every time someone in their family got sick. They’re the ones who go visit, then go home and call everyone just to tell them how bad they looked, how sickly they were, etc. MAJOR pet peeve for me…if you’re just looking to gossip and make yourself look good cause you invested your time to go visit someone, stay home!
Then my step-dad told them they could come up. I told him if they did and he circumvented me when I wasn’t at the hospital that he could stay home too.
Yes, I’m your evil twin sister. LOL
Hang in there. Sorry to hear your Aunt is ill too. Might be part of why she didn’t get him to the doctor right away…may have forgotten he’d had a seizure and was just watching over him as usual. We found out my great-aunt had Alzheimer’s after her husband died…he’d been covering for her for quite some time.
LOL love it Debi
I’m glad your dad’s improving, and I hope he’ll be out of the hospital and into rehab soon. I won’t it can’t be soon enough for you, but hang in there — it’ll happen before you know it!
The picture of you and your sister is hilarious! Talk about a beautifully captured “if looks could kill” kind of moment! LOL
The year sure started on a “Let’s test Tiff” kind of mood. Let’s hope it’s just trying to get all the bad stuff over and done with so you can have a great rest of the year. The good things that came along with the bad are that Dylan and his friend weren’t hurt, you were not only productive but superproductive while having the flu, and your dad’s recovering.
The stress of your dad’s health is probably having a negative effect on your aunt — worry, lack of sleep in general and especially good-quality sleep, probably not eating as well as normally… And a stressed body needs more vitamins and protein to deal with it, plus good carbs and fats for the enormous amounts of energy being depleted by the stress and all the things causing it.
Make sure you take really good care of yourself, too! Especially with Honey Badger on the prowl.
Err… “I won’t it can’t be soon enough” — that should read “I know it can’t be soon enough”… argh.
No worries
I understood! I’m a typo queen.
Yes “let’s test Tiff” sounds about right. I am definitely taking care of myself
I’m sorry you’ve had a rough start to this new years. I agree holding off your visit with your dad when your kids can be less restricted in the hospital. Texas is a long way from Florida, it’s not like you can go home and wait. It’s a good thing your Aunt won’t be caring for dad since he’ll be going into a nursing home. Having a sick parent can take a a toll on your emotions. There is nothing worse than worrying about them. I hope you get the rest you need tonight.
Here is my Vlog: Joined squids pro lensmaking challenge by Amanda Thomas. It’s probably the longest vlog I’m done so far. LOL
http://www.plrasset.com/2013/01/17/squidoo-lens-challenge/
Thanks Cheryl! I did get some rest last night. Feel better today. I’ll feel better about dad in a nursing home and you know I’ll be buying a secret teddy bear cam or something. LOL! Honey badger if he’s mistreated.
You’re an amazing example Tiff – you’re going through all this but also staying focused on work. So many people would be racking up the “excuses” by now.
Re the “noise” thing – my life has been a LOT happier since I stopped watching the news, which is always about the bad stuff. If something big happens that I need to know about, I somehow always find out. But not focusing on every drama keeps me a lot saner (and in my belief system, means I attract less of it too).
Love and hugs Tiff – this is a tough time, not much that can make it better, but you have your amazing kids and your “family” here at least.
Yeah I can’t but there are moments in this when I feel paralyzed. I snap out of it quickly but there are moments! You know, you told me about the news thing awhile back and I scoffed at it. Then I quit watching the news except for the weather. And I quit tuning into talk radio (news/politics) in the morning during carpool and after school. I’m much happier. I DO check in on Drugereport.com and Fox and Cnn online, but I pick and choose my noise there, rather than hear it all in an uncontrolled manner. I felt especially helpless after the election, almost depressed, so it helped to unplug and not have to see/hear anything about it.
My prayers for you and your family continue. Our parents are pretty special to us regardless of any past issues we’ve encountered over the years. It’s tough seeing a parent go through the type of challenges your father is having to deal with. One thing I’ve learned the past few years with my parents is that it is okay to feel and express our emotions – it’s not a sign of weakness. You are such a strong woman and a role model to many. Hopefully, you and your children will be able to see your father soon and you will get to spend some time with him. Take care!
Thank you Edie! I agree – trying to tell my sister it’s okay with her emotions. She’s a wreck.
I’d totally hit the roof if someone posted a video of me online, especially if I was ill and didn’t know what was going on. A lot of younger people don’t seem to care about online privacy in the same way, and seem happy to share just about everything. It’s a pity they don’t realise that not everyone sees it their way, and they don’t have the right to make that choice for others.
And I agree about removing yourself from the annoyances. I was just thinking this the other day, after seeing some pins I disliked on Pinterest, and realising I’d chosen to expose myself to that stuff … lol
I hope your year gets better soon
I know Cat me too!
Clearly this year is the year that makes you stronger.
Man it seems I missed out on the sibling stuff, but I’m glad you and your sisters have the relationship you have.
My thoughts are with you and your family. Sending love and light your way.
LOL yes Minna maybe it’s like exercise for my mental strength.
Hi Tiffany,
One thing about your aunts memory lapsing – my mother was diagnosed with a mixture of Parkinsons, Dementia and Alzheimers 2 years ago. Turns out the medication she was on was poisoning her.
2 years ago she was trying to make phone calls with her TV remote. Today she’s back doing her own grocery shopping again. Basically if she’s on any meds or mixing meds have them checked.
- if there’s anything I can help with let me know.
Niall
Niall she’s a nurse who refuses to take medicine. Weird, isn’t it?
My other Great-Aunt was like that. Nurse all her life and, just like doctors, one of the very worst patients!!
She had a couple of strokes, wasn’t able to say more than “Yes”, “No” and “I need you to”, knew that physical therapy could help her get full function of her arm back as well as her speech, but still refused to go. God forbid the caretaker ever have to be taken care of!
Maybe it’s a generational thing too?
Yes might be that too!
Just lending my support. As you know we’ve been at the hospital with my father n law. My kids weren’t allowed up on the ICU floor, but I had help from my husband’s family and also my own family. My kids were troopers and were at the hospital alot, but I also made sure they got away as well. It was tough for us and them even with the help and the breaks. There is nothing wrong with you doing what’s best for you and your kids. I’m sure your dad wouldn’t want it any other way. My husband and I had to take care of some business before we could leave, and I don’t think everyone understood…but my father n law would have. Hugs to you and yours.
True. Dad would be the same way.
Hey Tiff
Sorry to hear about your pops, 2013 has really been giving you challenges so far, but nothing God don’t think you can’t handle. Keep your head up and always count your blessings, remember there’s always somebody who wish they had your problems.
Be Well.
Exactly Alexis
Hey Tiffany
So sorry your having to go though this its hard I know. My sisters and I went though a tough time with our mother last year, but she passed a year ago come this Febuary.
I’ve worked in the medical field for 20yrs and I’ve seen a lot but its still hard when it comes to family.
I also know that if his will is strong he will make it though.I wanted to also comment that his babling could be due to medication.
I’ve learn that the medication (Ativan) does not do well with the elderly. It can give an oppisite reaction.
Its used to calm people down but with the elderly it does the oppisite. They will talk out of thier heads and bable,and will be very restless.
Just wanted to give you that information,I’ve seen this happen first hand.
Hang in there Tiffany, keep strong and may god bless you and your family.
So sorry for your loss Sandra
Okay girlfriend, if you can show a photo of yourself as a youngster, I’ll dig one out here to show you.
Mind you, I don’t have that many photos left from when I was young. Dad remarried after mom passed and the step-mother threw out all our childhood photo albums.
(Don’t even get me started on that strain!)
You look tired hon. Are you getting enough sleep?
Well, I got a special surprise for you, but I need to get my Squidoo lens done today since yesterday’s power outage made sure I didn’t get a single thing done for 10 hours!
So after I get the lens cranked out, I’ll sit down to finish your goodie. hehe
You seen my vlog already, but just in case someone else wants to view it, it’s the link below.
How mean Bonnie!!
I was very tired when I made that. I slept pretty good last night – my sis called me at 1 AM and again this morning but that’s okay. I told her to.
Oh Tiff I am so sorry to hear about your dad!!! It sounds like a really difficult time for everyone. I will be praying for you and your family.
I could never think of you as Eeyore!
Yes! You are on a roll with your blogging Tiff! Good for you for not letting life derail you!!
He’s SO improved today Tiff – I’m very happy! He’s not in pain now, he’s happy, he’s joking. I’m relieved. Rough couple of days.
Tiff you do look tired but you have good reason to. Work is probably the best thing for you at the moment as it keeps your mind occupied. No time to dwell on the problems.
Something I learned many years ago when I was having counseling is to not to think about the ‘what if’ scenario. Don’t project your thoughts any further forward than getting through the ‘immediate now’. Let the future take care of its self, you thinking about and worrying about it won’t alter it one bit.
Chin up as my mum used to say. 2013 might have started bad but it has to improve soon. Love and light winging your way from both of us.
Yes I was. I slept hard last night though so I’m improving
LOL telling me not to “what if” is like saying, “don’t breathe.” Never gonna happen but I wish I wouldn’t do that! LOL
He’s very improved!
Sorry your year has been so tough. I hope your dad gets better and your year does, too.
Thanks Katie meeeee too!
Hang in there girl! Sending some white light your way. I hope everything turns around soon, and your dad gets back on the level.
hanks Sally! He’s having ups and downs…