Thing I Need to Work on – Or Not
October 2nd, 2011 | 
Author: I heard you loud and clear! In addition to much love and support, there were a few things I turn you off with. So I wanted to go over those with you – because some I refuse to change, some I am working on, and some I need a compromise solution for, and I’m hoping you can help me! Watch the video here OR read the text below. And THANK YOU for your feedback. It’s helping me figure out how I can be a better leader.
First of all, let me start by saying, “Please don’t apologize for the length of your comments – EVER!” I don’t mind long comments. I saw many people say they were sorry for rambling on so long.
Now let’s talk about dislikes! It’s SO good to hear this stuff. The majority of you gave me props for everything, but there were some repeated things that stuck out for me to address in a video and here in text:
1. Cussing
Oh boy. I am in BIG trouble with my potty mouth! MANY of you said it bugged you – might not make you go away for good, but you dislike it. It isn’t necessary. And here I thought it was only once in a blue moon! My background with cussing: those years I spent golfing w/active and retired military men, bartending, and being married to someone who cusses a lot.
Am I proud of it? No. It bugs my mom a LOT. She cringes whenever I speak or type out a word. But to be honest, I’ve never worried about changing that. Until now maybe. And for a different reason than you might think.
I took your complaints about this issue and asked my KIDS – who are my LIFE – “Does Mommy cuss too much?” My boys shrugged it off like I was crazy and said no. Dylan said I cuss for an average person – but he said “Mom, these are NOT your friends – they’re your customers.” THAT is my problem. I see you as friends, so I’m maybe too real. LOL!
But my daughter piped up, “YES! Even when you’re talking to a friend on the phone and NOT arguing, you sometimes say a bad word.”
Well yuck! I don’t want my baby girl having a bad impression of her Mommy! So I had her make me a jar for money in it when I use bad language. She called it the “Bad words hurt the world” jar. She drew a dagger on it because “that’s how it makes people feel when they hear it.”
She drew peace signs because “that’s how it SHOULD be.” She drew a stick figure w/a popcorn bowl saying, “DARN it! I didn’t want butter,” because that’s “wayyyy more appropriate.” And she told me that instead of calling someone a B word, I should say dummybutt – if I have to call them anything at all.
From the mouths of babes…so if you see/hear me cuss, point it out so I can stick some cash into the jar. Sometimes I don’t even notice it and it’s definitely something I sure don’t mind changing.
2. Ranting
Now this was an interesting one. Some people said they dislike the rants but it makes me more real. Some said it makes them uncomfortable and they click away. Some said I’m too sensitive (I disagree here because so much I let roll off my back – maybe these just hit me at the wrong time). Some said it looks like I’m PMSing, like I’m sulky. Agree! One person said “you’re a sweetheart – but you’re not very nice.” I understood what she meant – my heart is pure on this, but I come across as rude sometimes.
So here’s my thinking on all this rant stuff…
I never want to be a rainbows and unicorns person. I DO get that it’s a negative to your positive day. BUT, I also want you to see that some days something ticks you off and some people are ungrateful and sometimes you get frustrated. I LIKE being transparent that way.
I never ever post about someone I feel is wrong BECAUSE I want “you go girl” replies. I’m not the type of person who cares if I stand alone in my way of thinking. My close family and friends unfortunately know that. So it’s not a victim post. My reasoning is so that you see all of my ups and downs and pros and cons.
However…I dislike that it made several people uncomfortable. SO – is there a common ground? Would a warning that it’s a rant be enough or no? (ie: giving you the opportunity to skip it). I don’t like waiting 24 hours to cool off but maybe I should try it. Would it perhaps lose its oomph? I don’t know. I’m willing to hear your thoughts on how we could both be satisfied with this. I do know I will never ever make this a 100% sunshine place – that’s not TRUTH.
3. Honey
NO change on Honey – some love seeing and hearing about her – say it makes me real. Some don’t like or care about ANY personal information at all – say to leave it out. I won’t. But that’s just my style. I DO put it at the end of everything, though. I separate the video out at the bottom of a blog post, for example, so that’s a good compromise. You can read the marketing stuff and then click away. It’s okay to not embrace everything about me 100%.
4. Holier Than Thou Reviews
I saw this in a forum recently when eavesdropping about a thread on me. My way of thinking on this, and it’s a non issue because I don’t do reviews anymore, is that I blog side by side as I read and implement a course. I blog my exact feelings right that second, even if I realize it’s ME who’s wrong – and I do this because implementation of a product is NOT always smooth.
You get flustered. You have to roll your eyes and backtrack to find your own way. So to ME, it’s not holier than thou, but blunt – and transparent. Not anything I’ll really change if and when I ever go through something again. I do understand this irritates some people and I apologize for that ahead of time 
5. Bragging About Money
Two people told me they felt like I was bragging when I shared my income. Many others appreciate it because it lets them see real earnings that are possible. I won’t change this. Perhaps a disclaimer or more inspirational commentary rather than “get your (oh I want to cuss but I won’t!) butt in gear!” speech would be welcomed for those in a desperate financial spot that day?
6. Emailing on Sunday
Sunday is not my Sabbath. Never was even when I was part of organized religion. I work 7 days a week and I take off ON those days for certain times. Sometimes I take 2 weeks off in a row. I work at my pace and according to my needs. So I won’t stop emailing on Sundays because for many part timers, it’s when they DO have a chance to do online marketing. But perhaps for those it offends, you could just not open the email?
7. Recommending Warrior Forum
Two people commented that they don’t fully trust me because I love the Warrior Forum and recommend it. I’m not one to do those broad brushstrokes. There are scumbags everywhere. But I’m in WF. So is Craig Desorcy. So is Ruth. So are a bunch of other great people!
I encourage MY followers to go there because they WILL encounter some fantastic people and learn a lot. And they then become PART of the community, raising the scoreboard for good versus bad. So I won’t change this. It’s a great resource for connections, for learning, for promoting and more.
I applaud those of you who also emailed your lists and asked for honest feedback. It’s great to hear the bad along with the good. The MOST eye opening to me was my #4 question about what they think I do online. Shows I am NOT branding myself right. LOL!
Tiff 
P.S. Not 5 minutes finishing writing this Scarlett earned a quarter in her Bad Words Hurt the World jar from me. UGH! I was organizing my desk when I said, “UGH! I have too much S— everywhere!” She even made me drop the money in so I could see and hear it. This won’t be easy.
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Interesting post Tiff and I am glad you have seen some feedback which has helped you to address some issues
I didn’t respond to the original question because as a Coach (in the offline world) I would never give direct feedback. I would however ask the person to think about how people might react to their behaviours – looks like you have done a pretty good job of addressing them.
How does that make you feel?
Only teasing!
LOL! Paul you crack me up – I’m studying coaching now too since I get asked to do it a lot. I do get torn between insisting on being me and “weeding out those who don’t like me” and wanting to be a good friend and be what people also need me to be to some degree – as long as it’s not a big sacrifice, like cussing. For instance, I wouldn’t dream of going into my children’s headmasters office and spouting off four letter words – so why am I doing that in front of my customers? Because I’m digging in my heels wanting to be me? Pick your battles LOL!
Paul,
As a coach, I thought you were supposed to give direct feedback. That is what I was taught when I was trained to be a counselor and coach. I guess you were trained differently. I give direct feedback all the time and my clients praise me for my directness, even though they may not like some things I say.
Coaching can be a real challenge at times because you just want to say “do this, do that and then do this” but it something you have to really train yourself in – especially when you are an expert in your field.
But one of the things that really helped me was getting my head around the whole Socratic Questioning Technique – well worth taking a look at if you haven’t come across it.
BTW talking about being an “expert” you do know the definition of expert don’t you? X is the unknown quantity and a spurt is a drip under pressure
Okay………that’s me out of here LOL
I’m studying a book my own mentor gave me. LOL! Very new to it all but maybe someday…
Cussing – Cussing is only bad when used intentionally to hurt someone. It’s a perfectly good exclamation point.
Rude or Mean- Thank you for not being politically correct.
Warrior Forum- I read the Warrior Forum and I sometimes read the Huffington Post and Fox News. They have good points and bad. Nobody put a gun to my head and makes read either one. My decision my choice.
Emailing on Sunday- Every day is Gods day not just Sunday so that totally rules out email 7 days a week for me.
Trust- I’ll have to agree there because I heard it from a guy who heard it from a guy who heard it from his cousin who heard it from a guy who read it on Facebook that anybody with blue eyes is not to be trusted. HOLY CRAP I have blue eyes tooo…
Stan
I agree about cussing Stan but it’s making my baby girl sad. That hurts me. Especially because I’m in the living room where I’m around them. Love the other points!
Hi Tiff,
I’ve been subscribed to your email for years…this is my first response to any of them.
You have been an inspiration in many ways, so don’t change a thing about what you do. Period. You are the most down to Earth marketer that I follow on my 5 – 6 years on the Internet.
Because of following you, and your writing, I finally decided to pursue one of the passions I’ve had for a long time…writing.
I may do some PLR projects in my spare time, but copywriting is the field I’m going for to supplement my retirement. (Too much info? I’m 61. Yep, too much)
Thanx for being there. I mean it, don’t change a thing. Give Honey my best!
Best in all your endeavors!
Tom
Not too much at all! Thanks Tom and Honey says WOOF!
Hi Tiff
Well how interesting I go on Holidays and come back to see you are having a 360 pier review Wow. I wonder how many other people in your situation do that
As you know I love all you do and take it as it comes. If people dont like it they can unsubscribe simple.
So whatever new and improved model you are bringing out with or without Honey I for one am glad of the opportunity to receive your emails and learn or contribute if I feel i can. I can even delete them if I wanted to.
One thing I am sure off, Scarlett’s bank balance is going to improve no end!
Cheers
Charles
LOL she already earned $0.25 – hoping that’s it for tonight. Must make change at the bank!
Hi Tiffany,
You are who you are and be careful what you change.
Those who complain about your ranting are really not seeing the whole picture. When you are ranting, you are not trying to sell something like so many emails I have received recently. You are unhappy about something or some person for a particular reason. The problem we have today is a lot of folks are trying to be ‘politically corrrect’ instead of exposing the item or person for what it really is or who he/she really is.
With respect to the Warrior Forum, as you say there are good and bad everywhere. I don’t know of any forum where everyone on there is a ‘goody-two-shoes’. There are always one or two that make trouble for the rest. The Warrior forum is no different other then there are a whole lot more people on it. Therefore the number of bad guys goes up but.. it is the resposibility of each of us to determine who is or isn’t trustworthy. To dis someone because they recommend the forum is foolhardy at best as one can learn a lot from some of the good guys and gals who frequent the forum.
Don’t stop being who you are. We need more folks who are forthright and upstanding as you are and have been.
Just my 2cents!
Chuck
Right Chuck – I don’t want to change the rants – but I don’t mind warning people or whatever. You rock
Well I’m from the UK too and I like what I get on your blog Tiff.
I did not even notice what you call Cuss words – so maybe I cuss more than you!
And…
I TOTALLY LOVE RANTS
maybe you could just put the word rant in the title. Nobody is forced to read it are they?
Only thing I’d like less of is, deep breath now Alex, is… the blessed dog. Ugh!
End of the video? Cool!!
I’m wiling to do that Alex – Warning: Rant! Warning: Honey! LOL
Hi Tiffany,
I love that you admit to not being perfect! I could totally imagine myself getting frustrated by all the C*** around the house! It made me smile and think, “Well, if she can build a business even if she doesn’t always win all of her personal battles, then I can too!”
It was perfect timing because I’m feeling soooo tired right now trying to do all the things I need to do to build my business while also managing a home full of kids, dogs, a cat and one truly wonderful hubby!
Thanks for being real because it’s encouraging. It means that it’s not only “those” people who have what it takes to build a business, but me too. I can do it too – even though I’m not perfect.
Amen Tiffiney!
I agree. I’m trying to run this thing with small kids and it’s great to see someone who’s pulling it off. I didn’t answer your survey because I don’t have any complaints. I think seeing you as you are even when I wouldn’t do the same thing as you is what makes you unique and authentic.
I get emails from one marketer in particular who I feel is lecturing me and speaking disrespectfully. After some correspondence, I can see that it comes from a place of love and desire to get people to get to work and succeed, but her methods feel like bullying and I can’t even stay on a whole letter sometimes.
It’s possible that some people are having the same response to you. It took me a long time to get to this point, but if someone doesn’t want what I am offering and doesn’t like how I present myself, maybe I can change a bit if it would help like with you and your daughter, but for the most part, my response would be, “Well, you’re not my customer.” It wouldn’t be said meanly or as an insult, but a match is a match, and if it’s not a match it’s forced and leaves a wake of resentment in its path. It’s better they find someone else to buy from and don’t get all aggravated with me!
Keep on doing what you’re doing and keeping it real. That’s my opinion, anyway.
Thank you Holly!
I think that you should just carry on doing what you’re doing. You have come this far doing things your own way that it’s obviously working for you.
If I didn’t like an aspect of a person but loved the rest, then that’s fine. I think it’s great that everyone has a different opinion on things and different people approach life in a different way. If everyone was the same then life would be pretty boring.
Also, you’re not a performing monkey – you shouldn’t have to change yourself to try and conform to everyone else’s needs. A lot of people get bullied for not acting a certain way and not conforming and I think that the sooner that people learn to stay true to themselves and allow people to take it and leave it, then we can all have a great time with it all.
I wouldn’t expect someone to change themselves to line up with how I’d like them to be and I wouldn’t like to have to change myself in order to please everyone because then you’ll end up trying to do the impossible and make everyone happy. People can’t have it both ways.
I actually don’t mind hearing people swear. While I don’t use cussing words myself (most of the time!) I still respect that people are from different cultures, backgrounds and that people do things in a different way. In most instances people can use “bad” words in everyday conversation. They don’t necessarily mean bad by it, it’s just become the norm. You would have a bad time trying to pull millions of people into line because you think a word is bad and they should only speak a certain way. People have their own uses for language and I wouldn’t condemn someone for trying to express themselves.
With regards to the rants etc. I think that if people don’t like the rants then they don’t have to watch/read that day. It’s not the end of the world. I’m not a fan of “rants” but I do like to hear what goes on behind the scenes when running a business. I’m not usually offended and I don’t go off on a “rant” – I spend the time that I would be ranting doing something more productive. Do I think that that means that other people shouldn’t? No. I like to hear different people’s opinions.
I do hear you say that there are instances when people are successful because of something that you’ve told them to implement and I would like to hear more about that. Life’s too short to give attention to time-wasters – I would love to hear a “rant” about these success stories and I think that they may be even more useful to many people. It may help to balance out the negatives a little.
Stick to your guns, though Tiff. I think it’s great that you want to hear from your followers/customers, but I also think that trying to change yourself to cater for everyone is an impossible task. I would rather see individuals – the good and the bad – than see copycats afraid to express themselves or get criticized or bullied because they don’t want to/can’t change to suite everyone else. There’s too much of that going on lately.
The swearing jar is cute though! Scarlett has already learned to make money from your bad habits. That’s a smart business women, right there!
Hey Nathan! Definitely not changing anything unless I feel it myself
And you’re right – she’s a little entrepreneur!
Good post Tiff. All I can say is thank heavens I don’t have a bad words jar. The bleepin thing would be full in about two hours probably. Although this is something I’m currently working on as well.
Good luck with yours!
you too! lol
Hi Tiffany, just a quick point: if people don’t like what you say – and how you say it – they can ‘change channels’ can’t they?
Personally, I like my women ‘sassy’ LOL (only kidding) but provided you don’t cuss and swear just for the effect, then as far as I’m concerned, when we dial in we should already know whats coming!
I do take your point about swearing around your kids though. It can be difficult, but maybe that swear-jar will curb your exhuberance!
Whatever, keep on keeping on.
George xxx
Yeah I definitely see it as just part of my language but won’t hurt me to develop a new habit with it if my baby girl cringes
Tif,
Don’t change anything about you. You can’t please everyone. This is what I learned from years of experience. I just can’t do it and won’t try to. Just be your sweet, loving self. By the way, I don’t give a damn if you curse. What the hell is the problem with it. Who gives a shit. He he.
See, I cursed. I do it all the time. It may be bad sometimes, but hey, we’re only human and I do let it out sometimes.
Just be yourself and you will find you will have more friends than if you tried to change for the sake of a few. If these few people can’t accept you for who you are, tell them to get a life and hide in a cave.
LOL I am really bad about it I guess
Great post Tiffany. Glad you up to listening to others and what they say but you don’t feel like you have to change just because others want you to. Glad you are keeping honey in and your personal life because that makes it feel more real, instead of always just talking about business. I want to be able to do both the personal life and the business part too.
I need to work on commenting and just being me because i am mostly a shy person and worry what others will think of what I say. Maybe they wont like it but then maybe putting myself out there more will help me to feel more sure of myself. Thats why I am doing this branding challenge, to get out more online. Thanks for being yourself so others can see that it is possible.
Thanks Catherine
I appreciate that you put yourself out there like this. I totally agree with Nathan. No one is forcing anyone to read or do anything that you put out there. If they don’t like it, only they can decide if that’s a deal breaker for them. You can’t be everything to everybody.
I don’t think it’s the message that’s necessarily the problem with those that complain, it’s the way it’s delivered. I say…don’t shoot the messenger. You are who you are, so embrace it. If they can’t take it, F*@k them. And that was worth the quarter!
LOL I may have some “worth the quarter” moments
Tiff…actually….I would hate to see you change a damn thing! And..I’m not looking at you as a LEADER…I don’t think that’s your role…NOR should it be…YOU, my outspoken Texan…are a “Trusted Advisor”…one who sheds insight…
To compromise to satisfy others goes against my grain of thinking. As Dan Kennedy would say..IF you try to be all things to all people ..YOU lose!
For the whiners and crybabies that may reside on your list…..Let em whine and moan…but don’t undergo some Frankentiffness to your personality!
Please Oh Pretty please….and my Honey Badger Mentors have concurred….STAND LIKE YOU ARE!!
For those that don’t like it.it’s a free country…there is always the unsubscribe button..
The reasons I do come here..or read your stuff..is from RESPECT….NOT because I want a fookin leader!
As Far as Honey Goes!! SHE STAYS!! Besides…My Cheewowwow Weezy has a bad crush on her!!
Ok..enough said…
GED
Well I like that title, too!
I can’t shut the honey badger up – but for my baby girl I might tone down my curse words. I can rant w/out those 
I refuse to say “Oh chocolate sauce” when I really mean S—- though. LOL!
“Oh chocolate sauce” made me think of what my hubby says instead of mother f… He says, “Oh monkey grabber,” which tickles my funny bone every time!
As I was one who mentioned about your association with the Warrior Forum I’d just like to clarify that I never inferred that you were a scammer or ‘scumbag’ or that there aren’t some good marketers on there. However, what I would say is that if as you state, you like to report the good and the bad then it would be fairer and more transparent to say that there are good marketers but there are also a great deal of bad one too. Many (not all) of the WSO’s are a waste of time that will send you round in circles and do nothing but fleece your pocket. The moderators are very ban happy and often ban for little or no reason and should that happen to you there is no way to get a refund on the ‘lifetime membership’ that you forked out for. Let’s have a balance! There’s a big clique on there and they are not newbie friendly.
The only other aspect is the venting on individuals. Ripping a product that you’ve purchased and implemented is fair game – it’s business. If their product sucks then quite right they should be named and shamed and it teaches the others to raise the bar.
The post about the woman who asked for a critique and then didn’t like what you’d said would have been better off kept between the two of you and not broadcasting as it makes people feel that if they don’t agree with you they’ll get publicly assassinated. I did read it and all I could think was ‘ooowwww Tiffany, what are you doing? you don’t need to do this’ – I was cringing
People have loads of things going on in their lives. Sometimes they have their backs against the wall and are desperate. While their reactions may seem irrational and personal, people react in strange ways. I try to always have that thought in my head before I retaliate as whenever I’ve been a hot head (and believe me, I can be a real wasp
) I’ve always wished I’d have slept on it before I opened my mush 
Otherwise your fab and I love your PLR
Hey Nicola forgot you said that too but I was really talking about the other comment who was more angry about my association with WF. I have stated here before that WF has good and bad. I disagree about it not being newbie friendly – I see a lot of people taking others under their wings. But everyone has a unique experience
I have to still stand behind the D situation – I don’t apologize for it – but I DO understand it made some people uncomfortable. THAT I want to fix 
The interesting thing about the written word is just how differently people interpret them. I love the fact that you mention how much you earn because it proves what work and motivation can achieve. I also like it when you mentioned that you are in full on work mode cos you have to pay for school fees or the new swimming pool etc. Makes you real and completely unflashy.
It is also lovely to hear that this request for feedback allowed you to get feedback from the people that truly matter – your family.
The only time my mum swore was when she was really ticked off about something. We knew to steer well clear of her then. LOL.
I agree
Hi Tiffany:
You received some good feedback on this. As I stated in my feedback, you tell it like it is and that is it. No Fluff. I like that. As far as the cussing, it really does not bother me and you don’t do much of it anyway. I can understand that it would bother some people. But again, I would not change who you are. I think your wanting to work on not cussing is a positive. But I would not like to see you change to try and please everyone, as you know, you just are not able to please everyone all the time. Stay who you are. And as far as HONEY, my wife and I really enjoy the videos on HONEY. I have had a dog all of my life except for the past couple of years. I love dogs and seeing Honey fills that void since I don’t have a Honey currently. Keep up the good work in helping people make money online. You are the best. Take Care
thank you Sam
You are Most Welcome!
Since I “missed out’ on your “critique”, I wanted to comment on your comment (Hmmm, I hate to sound redundant!) On your points….
1) Cussing: I also come from a rough and tumble background and though I can understand some having issues with it,I would be more apprehensive to someone upfront with colorful language than many that talk eloquently but with forked tongue. I understand with the kiddos so than would be a good reason to be cautious but if you aren’t mad at me while cussing…I’m ok with it.
2) Ranting: What is wrong with speaking ones mind? I consider a rant as looking inside ones mind…it is there to examine. If you don’t care for it…turn away, turn away.
3) Honey: Having half of my family in the South….this is and always has been a term of endearment. Everyone seems to have endearing name for another. And some not so (like “Dude” or “Man” or even just “You Guys”
4)Holier Than Thou Reviews: If the review is honest and upfront, what difference does it make?
5) Bragging About Money: Again, if it is an honest assessment, why not brag? This gives you a measuring stick and/or goal to meet. IMy own personal opinion is that there is so much negativity about capitalism, that it is refreshing to here someone be proud of their fruits of labor. (Isn’t that what we are here for?)
6) Emailing on Sunday: If it is against ones religion…please, as a recipient, do not open until Monday.
7) Recommending Warrior Forum: Recommendations are just that…we all have a choice to accept or reject the recommendation. Personally, the more the merrier….it gives me more options so I request more!
Once again…these are my own feelings upon these subjects. I certainly appreciate the frankness, availability and the constant desire to assist others, Tiff. Now…that jar may be seed money for another endeavor?
Hey Tony! thank you! And Scarlett mght have college paid for before we’re done. LOL
Tiffany,
I admire you so much…in so many ways. And the way you stuck yourself out there yesterday for everyone took real guts.
Except for the cursing — which even you agree that you want to work on — please don’t change a thing. This is YOU. This is YOUR BRAND. If I want to read boring marketing articles, devoid of any personality or real-world application, I’m sure there are plenty of stuffy sites out there.
But this IS about branding…and Tiffany Dow has evolved into a powerful brand.=)
Keep it coming, Tiff.
Thanks Cathy!
Gonna have to agree with the above poster on the use of harsh language. Is it necessary? No. Is it the end of the world? Uh, no. It could be I just don’t get it. I absolutely respect that you want to watch what you say around your kids; I respect that. But if you didn’t have kids, or if your kids were grown and took no issue with that language, do you think you would change for the sake of your customers? I can’t imagine you’re sitting there cackling thinking “Now… how can I offend someone in four letters or less!” It’s just part of a normal speech pattern for a lot of people.
I guess I was raised to accept it as not a big deal. My grandpa was in the Navy. He lived up to the whole “mouth like a sailor” thing.
There are much worse things you can say around me, like any sort of slur or, as the above poster pointed out, when those words are used with hatred behind them.
I’m all for people disliking something and exercising their right to not read any further. And as I said, I respect that you’re doing this for your kids. But when it comes to this blog… well, it’s -your- blog!
LOL You’re right Courtney. My dad was a WII Navy vet too.
I can live with the cussing and the ranting. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with receiving emails on Sundays. I can always read them later. I don’t have to read my emails on the same day I receive them.
I love the Warrior’s Forum. I paid for the War Room membership. Totally worth it. For $37, I get access to the best IM tips and free products for 20 years!
I don’t think you’re a braggart. When you tell us how much you earn, it inspires me because you show me what’s possible.
And Honey should definitely stay!
Thanks Diane
Hi Tiff,
Had to write in about a couple of things:
1)Warrior Forum: like any other forum on this planet, it has both good and bad. People should always do their due diligence in business and marketing. The place is crawling with great marketers and programs and yes, a few dishonest ones. There is something for everyone there, from beginners to very advanced marketers.
2)You “bragging” about your earnings: I love it when you mention how much you make. It shows what can be done and even exceeded with some effort and the proper training which you provide. Some of your readers are so insecure if mention of earnings depresses them. Sheesh!
This is a business folks! That’s why we are reading your emails!
3)Honey: more insecure people. A cute little dog who is obviously very loved and part of your family upsets readers? Really? I love any mention of Honey at all! It shows a wonderful side of you as a caring Mom and friend. Your inclusions of Honey are not posed and artificial. They are who you are!
Keep up the good work Tiff. I welcome all your emails. They have real “meat” in them. You don’t send endless email after email offering affiliate programs and every junk offer that comes along. The more we get to know you – the more we can emulate your success both as a marketer and service provider and as a real life, worthy human being.
All the best,
Allen
Thank you Allen
I appreciate that!
trying to please everyone is like trying to market to everyone – not possible.
I had a “cuss jar” when my boy was growing up, and it paid for a couple of birthday parties when he was growing up – and one of the funniest moments in my life was when, with great seriousness, he walked up to the jar, dumped in a dollar, and told his mom “I’m about to use some very plain language about some s**t at school, okay?” I think he was all of ten. Surprisingly skilled exercise of the vernacular, too…
I thought about your poll; pretty hard, actually. I might not like everything about you, but I do like most of it – and even the parts I don’t particularly care for, I don’t think you are posing or posturing – whatever you’re talking about, its YOU, not some BS you pulled from the babble box.
Mostly I respect you, and am glad I know you. You aren’t perfect, but you DO seem to try to match the higher standard – and that counts for much.
Go, Tiff!
Agree Hagar! I know I won’t make everyone happy for sure
Your kid cracks me up!
People who are offended by swearing make me sick. If a word can still upset someone in 2011, then those poor sensitive souls should get together and form a backward society out in the woods somewhere. Then the rest of us free thinkers can carry on living in the real world.
lol Well for my baby girl she wants Mamma to be good
Somebody once said ” you can’t please all the people all of the time”.
The rant ‘warning’ should be adaquate. Actually I rather enjoy your RANTS. The warning would be good – in that I can quickly scan for your occasional rant, read and enjoy. The folks who don’t care to read them can simply skip those comments.
Your mentioning Honey is something that puts you in natural realm. Your a real lady with a real family, working out of an actual home, complete with a family pet. Ok – Ok, type in (Honey Alert). That way I can scan for Honey alerts whils scanning for Rant warnings. LoL
About the ‘cuss jar’. I have a young Daughter at home too. So here’s what I propose…we all set up a ‘cuss jar’, following the same rules as you Tiffany. When our jars collect a few dollars, we contibute said funds to the Angle Fund. With the following VOLUME BONUS! If you’ve had a really bad day and annoyed to the max, you can throw in a five or ten spot, go off by yourself and shout every word of profanity you ever heard of. ($1.00 a minute) The money is for a great cause anyway, so what the H**L! Oh C**P, there goes another 50 cents. LoL
Concerning your stating about money earned. I’m with someone’s comment about “that demonstrates the actual possibility”. Unlike the internet ripoffs, who ‘doctor’ Clickbank statements, with Photoshop, showing some fantasy million and a half in six weeks non-sense, I believe your figures. That should be, and is an incentive for us all! I don’t see it as bragging – I see it as stating the facts.
Here’s my brief testimony. Due to the Tiffany Dow ‘GhostWriterCash’course, I have launched on a immediate path to study web ad copywriting. And soon, to advertise said service. Through the years I have ghostwritten a few successful prospectus’s, not realizing they are a combined sales letter/business plan. In GhostWriterCash, Tiffany suggested a informative book. I got a copy ASAP, and am in the process of learning the finer aspects of web copywriting. I would not be on this lucritive path without your help and guidance Tiffany.
Tiffany’s effect has certainly been to the POSITIVE!!! For me!
In closing…Tiffany, you are a native Texan as am I. Most all long time Texas residents develope what I call the ‘Texas mindset’. I don’t know know how or why we develope this mindset. Something in the water??? I honestly don’t know!
All I can say for sure is this mindset almost always involves a ‘stubborn – stand your ground ‘ philosophy. Tiffany – YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE!!! Reading all the comments from your ‘community’, I would say the vast majority Love and truly appreciate you, just the way you are!!! I know I certainly do!
Bob Steele
Hey Bob! Well Scarlett already knows she’s getting this money so I’m on the hook. LOL! I do have the Texas mindset – I get it.
Hi Tiff
Seems I’m late with my homework but better late than never. When I read your pdf I thought well this is going to be easy… and then found it quite hard to dig deep! Anyway, here is my feedback to your questions.
1. What do you like or dislike about me, or my business?
I like the valuable content you give us. I like the way you relate to us readers. I like the values that transpire, that resonate with mine (honesty, integrity, generosity, warmth). I like that you prime service and good value over making a buck. I like that you’re not predictable. I open your email thinking now what has Tiff got for us today? I like that you get a bit in my face because I’m not like that and variety makes the world go round.
The only thing that grates isn’t personal, it’s cultural: it’s all the ‘lolling’ you do! But that’s because I’m English. What the hell does it mean anyway? I guess I would be just as irritated in English if people kept saying yikes, or some other word, every sentence. Very minor glitch, but since we’re being candid!…
My favourite quote?
“When I die and go to the world beyond this one, God won’t ask me why I wasn’t more like Moses, he’ll ask me why I wasn’t more like myself.”
Rabbi Zuysak
So just be yourself, you’re good at it.
2. What do you trust or not trust about me?
I trust your ethics, your desire to help people. I trust that you’ll let us be ourselves.
3. If someone asked you who I was, what would your answer be?
A clever woman, heart on sleeve, approachable and responsive, colourful, earthy, maybe a bit scatty, productive.
4. What main thing do you think I offer as a product or service?
Help for newbies, PLR packages, ghostwriting
5. Compare me to other marketers in general – how do I stack up?
Suffice to say you are on my shortlist of retained emailers, I had to zap 80% of them because it was unmanageable. I compare you most to potpiegirl, also on my list. The others on my list are more focussed on delivering products than advice and are way more impersonal.
6. Do I affect your life for the better or worse?
Definitely for the better. You’re my sunshine girl, even when you’re storming. By the way my parents had us kids have a complaints book which they only looked at in the evening. By then the morning’s squabbles had paled. So yes I think it pays to put off ranting at least a day…
Hi Issia! LOLling is just a giggle
Scatty yes! Working on that 
See what a positive influence you are? Even your young daughter can take a lemon and turn it into profit. A budding entrepreneur!
The reason you have so many loyal readers is because of who you are. It’s okay to take a look at oneself once in a while and maybe make an adjustment here or there, but please don’t change on our account or we will lose who we were following in the first place.
LOL yes she can! I may go broke but she’ll be able to support us
Tiff, I like you the way you are. When I first ran into your blog and started reading some of your posts, at first I thought, WTH, but dang I found it interesting and look forward to your emails.
I see you as a witty and extremely smart woman, someone who doesn’t need to repress her feelings especially when you know you’ll feel much better talking about it. This is you and not like you’re some reality TV queen just going on and ranting about senseless things. You have children, I have children, you like pets, I like pets. You know a lot about internet marketing, I know little but I rather learn from you, cuz sometimes it feels like you’re talking directly to me. I forget you have a crowd.
Well as for the cussing, dang I really must be used to it. I haven’t really noticed. I wonder if that’s good or bad. Kind of remind me of my sister. I wouldn’t trade her for anything in the world, regardless of the soap she may need for her mouth:-)
LOL wth – bet lots of people feel that way.
Tiff,
I didn’t respond to your questions. I had opinions, but didn’t feel it was necessary for me to give them. I understand about the Branding Challenge and becoming a better leader, but what people have to understand is that this is YOUR blog!! I can choose to read it or not. There are some things that I don’t agree with, but they don’t take away from why I’m here.
When we (your audience, friends, and followers) spend so much time with you, we get to know you. We are all human and have qualities and characteristics that others might not like. It’s like working on a job. You spend 40 hours a week with various people. Some you love and some you can’t wait to leave.
The issues at hand, I think they all depend upon the other persons perspective. I don’t care for your rants and don’t think they’re necessary, but as I’ve said, this is your blog. I can either read it or not. As for email on Sunday, if someone doesn’t want to read your email or feel it shouldn’t be sent, then don’t read it.
Don’t stop being YOU. There’s nothing wrong with improving YOU, if it’s your choice and you’re doing it to better yourself in the efforts of bettering someone else. I think the majority of your audience love you for who you are. We’ve come to know you and that is important when knowing who to trust online.
It’s funny how you put yourself out there and some have issues with it, but some butthole (didn’t cuss) so called guru can set up a fake site and take your hard earned $997 and no one even knows who they are.
I have learned a great deal from you, which is why I’m here. I appreciate all of your efforts and hard work in helping others gain success. What people should stop and think about is that you could shut down your blog, stop the emails, and videos and simply sell plr and ghost write. You don’t have to do what you’re doing. There are a lot of people making thousands online and have never made a video or provided any type of tutorial to help others.
In my humble opinion, you’re like a glass of orange juice, sweet, tart, and good for me. On other days, you’re like a Screwdriver, sweet, tart, and good for me with a little extra kick!
Thank you Cynthia! Points taken
LOL love the drink references 
Hi, Tiffany,
Baby girls believe Mommy is perfect, and anything that damages that belief if hard for them to deal with. I think it’s great that you are making this change for her. Good luck, though. It won’t be easy.
Love her so and would do anything for her!
Tiffany,
I was a little surprised with some of the results.
Cussing?? Wow, I did not notice – I am not sure what that says about me!
Rants and Holier than Thou reviews – I thought about adding this to my comments on the original post but I did not. Yes, not my favorite thing about you, but hey, nobody is perfect.
I think you including personal info, and Honey, is part of what makes you so real and trustworthy. Don’t stop. (who would not want to see Honey??)
Money – I said in my original comments that I really appreciated you sharing about money because it made me really see that it is real.
I have never thought that you were bragging – I think that some people have a problem with people making money. Some people see it as bragging when someone is successful – it is real hard to make money when you have such a “scarcity mindset”. People say they want to be successful but hold it against the people that are.
*The most important thing that I can say about this is, Tiffany, just make sure you aren’t listening to a couple of people when the majority of your customers see it another way. Also, who are your “ideal customers”? What do they say? My guess is that not everyone on here is your ideal customer and many haven’t bought any of your products. (I believe I have them all).
I wish you the best with using your results in the best possible way.
Wayne
Yes I’ll still be me Wayne – only thing I agreed to alter was cussing for my daughter – she’s earned $0.50 tonight alone. LOL!
Hi Tiff!
I think it’s kinda funny people commented about the cussing, because I have a bit of a potty mouth at times myself..though not in public or online, only at home with friends and family usually..so I barely even notice yours LOL I guess it’s just what you’re used to. To me, around my friends, some cuss words are just words. They’re, just like an adjective or verb. You forget when you get used to speaking like that they are “bad words”, I guess. It’s good though that you try to tone it down for your baby girl. It’s important to let her know her feelings matter. :O)
Ever since those Orbit gum commercials came out, we’ve taken to saying things like “Shut the front door” and “lint licker” ..or Shazbot from Mork & Mindy instead of..you know..LOL Still, sometimes only the real word will do, and then it’s just time to pay the piper to have your “worth the quarter moment”. :O)
I think you’re absolutely right about the Warrior Forum. There are a lot of scumbag marketers there, but there are a lot who try to help and provide real information to people, as well. I’ve been a member there for a while, even though I doubt I’ve ever actually posted, I just lurk a lot. You definitely have to do your homework and really think about what it is you’re buying if you see something offered there, but there is a lot of free information given there, too. There are those, like you, who try to help, and places like WF and Wicked Fire are where I go to get “real deal” information on a lot of things.
As far as the rants and all the rest, I’m in the “It’s your blog, do what you want” category. I hate when people try to tell other people what they should or should not post, or how they’re “supposed” to be. My answer to that is always,”Bite Me” …Would I need to put a quarter in the jar for that one? LoL You keep it real, you’re honest, you’re transparent, you try to help people, and you give of yourself. You aren’t trying to hide anything or scam anyone or just make a quick buck, no matter what it takes. I’m the same way, so I can appreciate that, and I feel I can trust you and trust your opinions. So, you must be doing something right!
If I had to say what I think the main thing you do is, I’d say writer of information products (PLR,Ebooks, etc), information marketing coaching/teaching, IM marketer.
Suze several people didn’t notice either. I LOVE the Orbitz commercials!! Lint licker makes me giggle.
Dear Tiff,
I decide to read your emails and blog, watch your vlogs. I don’t have to but I do because (even though I cringe sometimes) I learn a lot from you. It is thanks to you that I’m following my passion, that is, writing and not just following my passion, but putting it to good use, if you see what I mean.
You have certainly made me braver and I will cringe silently on my own, becasue who am I to tell you not to swear or not? I’m an English lady and it is very rare that I swear. I tell my children off when they swear (in French or English) and they don’t do it in my presence very much. But that is me. I hope that jug doesn’t get too full, but that is my opinion only. My children often say that the words they are saying are not swear words any more, because so many people use them all the time, but I tell them that I am old fashioned then and the words still offend me and still grate on me.
It is from our children that we learn things about ourselves sometimes and it is them that I would listen to, as you are listening to Scarlett. My son told me that I need to get more sleep, the other day. He said that I shout too much in the early evening when I am obviously tired and it was getting to him (I do have rather a high pitched voice, especially when I am upset). I realized that he was right. By that time of day I have become very tired and need to boost my blood sugar level. I have started taking a snack and shouting has diminished to almost nil.
None of us is perfect. If you weren’t you, perhaps some of us wouldn’t be following you and wouldn’t be learning from you and that would be a shame, me thinks!
Angel cuddles,
Sarah
Thank you Sarah
Tiff,
I woke up in the middle of the night worried because I had said that sometimes I cringe when listening to you. It suddenly occurred to me that you might not realize that I was using my English humour.
People don’t always realize that I am being humorous. I hope you didn’t take what I said the wrong way!
Angel cuddles,
Sarah
LOL I did Sarah but you weren’t alone in saying you cringed so I just thought it was okay
I’ve been a member of the Warrior forum for many years and it is a very valuable resource for any biz person. Yes, there are some scumbags there and there are certainly a lot of rip-off products. Also, a lot of people ignorantly spout off and don’t know what they’re talking about. Having said all that, there are tons of great people, wonderful products that advance any business and a plethora of knowledge and good ideas. In short: it’s a collection of ordinary human beings, saints and sinners. For those who object to the lowlifes, be aware that no matter where we go or what we do there will be less-than-wonderful people. Find the treasure and learn from the rest – that’s real life.
Agree Sydney!
Hi Tiff!
I applaud you for asking for people’s feedback and criticism. Would I do it? No. I feel if people don’t like me or my website, then don’t come to it. If they are subscribing to my RSS feed or Autoresponder, then unsubscribe from it, too. No one is making them come to the website and see what’s been posted.
I didn’t comment on your earlier post, but I enjoy reading your blog. You “keep it real” and your not being a fake online like some fellow internet marketers. I can see how you make your money. Some people photoshop pictures, and you are skeptical if its real or not. I miss your 30 day challenges, (being more productive, and niche website creation). Keep doing them!
Be yourself. If everyone was the same, it would be a very boring world. Keep posting. I took a lot of your advice that you have posted in the past about internet marketing, niche site creation, plr, etc. I thank you for the post you did about the Warrior Forum. I have learned a tremendous amount of information from that website.
Be you! If others don’t like it, that’s too damn bad.
Take care…and like I said earlier…keep posting!
We’re doing the 30 day branding challenge but it’s closed now – did you know about that one? It’s a thought provoking one so far
Thank you for your kind words LaKesha!
I am working on my potty mouth too! Its a work in progress. LOL…
LOL glad I’m not alone!
Hi Tiff: I really admire you for asking people to review your blogs. I am 70 years old but am still learning things about myself.(thanks to my grown kids and grandkids)
I like you for the way your are. When you write personal stuff its like you’re my good friend telling me how you feel about something. I love the stuff bout your mom,the kids,honey and about how much money you make. Especially about your mom cause then I know I can do it to.
The potty mouth.mmmmmm not so much. but I think the way you are handling it is great. Also,I learn a lot from your blog. Keep up the good work. I always say if you don’t like something about someone. Don’t walk away. Pray for them instead. Thanks for making my day a little brighter. Doni
Thanks Doni
One of my subscribers that was answering my “me survey” thanked me for not having a potty mouth.
Oh if they could hear Truck Driver Debra at home. LOL
Hi Tiff,
Your over 9000s list means to me, you met the expectations of most people who signed up. I can imagine, someone realize after a time from his/her signup that you aren’t the best match.
So what? This is part of operating business.
Let go, who wants to go. Who will remain with you, you can count on those! Anyway, if you want to meet everyone, you will not meet anyone.
* Bad words – I like that jar thing, (I also had previously, LOL)
* 100% sunshine place – it exists on tales only
* Honey – separating her video is a win-win
* Bragging About Money – I find it inspirational rather than offensive
* Sundays Email – I’m going to read it
* Recommend Warrior Forum – not forced to go there. I learned a lot there, and got friends, too. I’m a member for years and going there, when time allows.
Because I like to see things as ‘the glass is half full’. I fill the other half.;)
So, that is a good place, you only need to be able to distinguish the useful from the crap. As on every other place.
I like your words: “I see you as friends”…
Carry on, Texan girl.;)
Sandor
Thanks Sandor
Hey Tiff, your baby girl sounds lovely. I think it says something very positive about your character that you have raised her to be able to express effectively how she feels about something that bothers her without being disrespectful to you. She probably could help you with your ranting
. The 4 letter words don’t offend. Don’t use them and I just wanted to be truthful about how they come across. Your ranting to me is just part of your passionate way of showing the unpleasant side of this business. Since you are teaching us, why not let us see the reality of how this stuff can affect us. Like almost everyone said you put the real you out there and of course everybody is not going to like everything,but everybody appreciated MOST things about you and expressed great value for what you have to offer. That’s what I believe being yourself, doing your best and owning it does for you and us all.
Honey is a cutie pie and I am not a pet person but everybody should be able to appreciate cuteness:).
Okay that’s it for me on this subject.
Thanks Tiff – you are one of the best!
She is – the light of my life w/my boys
Hi Tiffany,
I, for one appreciated all the sharing you do here. It helps me to see both the good and the bad sides of internet marketing.
That money jar thing really works. I put a dollar in every time I drop the f-bomb. I usually do that over politics, although I’m an Independent, on the oposite side of the spectrum from you for the most part. My son says that I do a lot of ranting on that subject, and worries I’m going to have a heart attack if I keep it up. I still consider you a friend, however-lol! I have friends of all persuasions, it’s what makes the world go ’round.
I also use that money jar thing (I use a coffee can) for turning my phone into a pay phone, and turning my laundry into a laundry mat. I’m sure I’ll come up with more ideas. It’s a great way to save. I just put the appropriate amount of change into it. I will use that money for an emergency repair when I need to.
I appreciate the honesty you show on your blog. You’re no cookie cutter phony, and I like that. Keep on doing what you’re doing, because it’s working.
Take care!
Cindi
Thanks Cindi
My son said he’s charge me $5 per LETTER! lol.
Tiff -
My hats off to you for this, but I have to say one thing….
Please stay who you are.
This wild wild web we call The Internet needs more genuine voices online – more voices like yours.
Please don’t change a thing business-wise. I’m with you on the cussing in front of the kids – totally get that, but business-wise, you are a pure voice. Real. I respect that. If you try and change too much in order to make more people comfortable, it’s possible you might feel “forced” or just not yourself.
Your *darn* awesome As Is.
Jennifer
~PotPieGirl
PS- a Fellow female golfer on a male-dominated course….if one doesn’t cuss, they can’t understand you! lol!
Lol thanks Jennifer! I forgot you golf so you get that
Ah, the cussing. I do it, too. But when I find it in a business document I wonder if I want to continue reading. Anger is not something I look for in a mentor. Ranting is something else & no problem! And I love Honey! And the look of your site!
But, maybe you could explain the word >>scumbags<< to your daughter and see if she thinks it warrants $$ for the jar. And double check with the boys, too. Just saying.
Well scumbags might be the same as dummybutt so I think I’m clear
Thanks for working on the cussing!
I have enough respect for others that I don’t expect them to make any unnecessary changes when I come to visit them. Everyone should feel comfortable in their own house, kwim? So I tolerated the cussing because your blog is your “house,” so to speak. I have the freedom to leave when I want, or to NOT come to your house at all.
The content on your blog is excellent, and the community is wonderful. That is the reason I return again and again. I always learn something. So I’ve been tolerating (with a cringe or two) your language because of what this blog has to offer me.
Now, when you EMAIL me, then YOU are entering MY house! I immediately delete emails with bad language, sexual references or innuendos, and the like. It’s disrespectful for others to assume that I don’t mind such language. Just like I expect visitors to smoke outdoors when they visit me (or at least ask permission, so I can tell them to please step outside), I expect others to WATCH THEIR MOUTHS IN MY HOUSE.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate your efforts to watch your language, even though it isn’t absolutely necessary on your own blog. I have avoided watching your videos SOLELY because of the cussing. It will be nice to get more of your “flavor” through watching the videos here.
And no more cringing at the thought of coming to an otherwise lovely abode!
Scarlett’s got $3.25 from my foul habit so far. I penalize myself even if I’m alone and whisper the bad word.
You have received a lot of feedback, which is good. People read your posts and even take the time to respond. What more could a marketer ask for?
I agree with the reduction of cuss words, because for some reason, unknown to me, I don’t cuss, although people around me do. I just don’t like it, but realize for many people it is normal speech. As far as using some other word in place of it though, that is silly, because your readers know what you mean and still read between the letters. If it really, bothers someone you do have an unsubscribe link on the bottom of every email. We all have the choice to use it.
Rants-why not. We all rant, if I don’t want to read one for one reason or another I just click it closed and go on. They don’t bother me in the least, and in fact, most of the time I admire you for having the fortitude to state their opinions.
Emailing 7 days a week, is fine with me. If I don’t want to read emails on any particular day, for whatever reason, I don’t.
Remember, that the hardest thing anyone ever does is to be themselves. So change only if it meets a need in your life and the way you want to go down in history. Changing yourself, whether it be speech, weight, mode of dressing, or anything else for someone else is unacceptable. Change for yourself, or to improve your role image for someone dear to you, if you feel it will be to your advantage.
Honey is part of your family and life, don’t cut off what is important to you.
The warrior forum is a place I visit often, I take the advice I agree with. The world is not a safe place and I feel we should have the intelligence to know if we want to follow someone or not, and why. The only way to be really safe on the internet, is not to be on the internet!
Keep up the good work Tiffany.
Thanks Patricia and I agree! The only changeable thing was the language for me – and that was for my baby girl